Valentine’s Day: The Secret Restoring Christian Marriages
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While Valentine’s Day has long become a commercial holiday about affection, flowers and chocolate, the story of Saint Valentine shows a more authentic love than the Hallmark version we are sold today.
It is believed that Saint Valentine was executed by Emperor Claudius II in around 269 AD for refusing to denounce his faith in Christ.
This martyrdom is a real demonstration of what Paul is talking about in Ephesians when he says
“Husbands, love your wives as Christ love the church and gave Himself up for her.”
As men, we are called to die to ourselves, as we love our wives deeply.
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Falling Short
The sad truth is that 68% of Church going men view porn on a regular basis. Many Christian men will try to romance their partners this Valentine’s Day, yet go and view pornography during the following month.
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**Porn has been proven to have a devastating effect on relationships. **
Numerous studies show that men who view porn are more likely to force violent sex acts on their partner. Add to that, 56% of divorce cases show that porn played a role in the break up.
Many of these men are desperate for a way out, they’ve tried to stop but have failed at every attempt.
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Renewing The Mind
Men struggling with porn are dealing with high levels of shame and a sense of worthlessness. Adult’s Ministry Pastor at Orlando’s First Baptist Church, Chris Ogden explains,
“For a lot of guys that have struggled in the area of sexuality, the lie becomes ‘This is just who I am. This cannot change. This will never go away. I might enjoy a week or a month [of sobriety] here or there but ultimately this is embedded in my soul, I can’t get free of it.'”
Dr. Ted Roberts, host of the Conquer Series, who has counseled thousands of men to freedom from porn, discusses why so many people in the church can’t stop viewing porn. Churches often treat this issue as a moral one, but fail to recognize it’s mainly a brain problem.
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Dr. Roberts shares,
“We tell men to try harder, pray harder, love Jesus more…But, what starts off as a moral problem, quickly becomes a brain problem. Telling a man to try harder is only tightening the ‘noose’ of bondage.”
But there is good news! There is an entire movement of men all around the world who are retraining their brains through the Conquer Series. They are learning to defeat porn and walk in freedom, and you can too!
Ogden recounts, what happens to these men as they go through the Conquer Series,
“As the guys in our church walk through that, you could just see that flame of hope kind of rekindle, and going, ‘I not only believe what they’re saying is true, but I think it could be true for me.’ And I think when that switch happens, that’s when God unleashes the power in the guy’s life.”
What Is Possible
Andrew Dunn was married for 11 years when he had a personal realization, “…because of my struggles I had a hard heart and was extremely selfish which took its toll on my marriage.”
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After going through the Conquer Series, big changes are happening for Andrew and his wife,
“No more lies or secrets. Our marriage is a lot better, I can talk with my wife, intimacy is starting to be restored, and my walk with God has been restored after 18 years of running from Him and doing things only to please myself.”
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Praise God that there are men around the world, just like Andrew, who are being restored in their relationships this Valentine’s Day!
The Conquer Series has become “ground zero” for the movement of men who are conquering porn. It presents the battle plan for purity. Millions of men have started their journey through this riveting course.