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Soul Refiner shares about renewing the mind from a betrayed wife's perspective
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Renewing the Mind: A Hurt Wife's Perspective

I felt trapped in a nightmare. It made me sick to my stomach how many people's lives were flipped upside down because of my husband's sexual sin. The pieces didn't add up. None of it made sense. I had just one question I needed answering that kept me up at night and fixated on during the day... Read Article

Kristina Douberly

Kristina Douberly

Soul Refiner shares about renewing the mind from a betrayed wife's perspective

Renewing the Mind: A Hurt Wife's Perspective

I felt trapped in a nightmare. It made me sick to my stomach how many people's lives were flipped upside down because of my husband's sexual sin. The pieces didn't add up. None of it made sense. I had just one question I needed answering that kept me up at night and fixated on during the day...

Soul Refiner Shares How Women Sexually Sin, Too

Women Sexually Sin, Too

Women sexually sin, too. If you look online, you can easily find statistics and facts like these: According to Pornhub, over 32% of the audience who visit their site are women. On average, they stay on the site longer than men. The most frequent search on Pornhub by women is lesbian pornography.

Soul Refiner Is Changing the Future of Men's Small Groups

Changing The Future Of Men's Small Groups

Pursuing a life of sexual integrity in an overtly sexualized world seems like an unscalable mountain standing in our way. Rarely are families, small groups, or churches talking about the dangers of pornography...

Soul Refiner Shares How This Man Found A Way To Help Pastors Fight Porn

This Man Found A Way To Help Pastors Fight Porn

For many years, Bill Tollis has been telling his testimony around the world of overcoming his pornography addiction. He’s told it in Hungary, the Netherlands, Slovenia, France, Romania, Greece and the United States...

Soul Refiner Shares How Major Porn Site Fails to Protect Known Victims

Major Porn Site Fails To Protect Known Victims

Hushed whispers. Quick glances. Laughter. Shock. Disbelief. At first, it sounds like a typical day at a public high school. Or, maybe it’s the starting point for a bullying seminar...

Soul Refiner shares how a major porn site suffered a tremendous blow

Major Porn Site Suffers Tremendous Blow

Following years of child abuse and sex trafficking allegations, one of the world’s largest pornography websites is suffering major consequences...

Soul Refiner Shares 5 Celebrities Who Admitted To A Porn Problem

5 Celebrities Who Admitted To A Porn Problem

Pornography affects men (and women) from the home to Hollywood. In fact, many of our nation’s top celebrities have admitted the damaging impact of pornography in their lives. A look at these five Hollywood actors and celebrities...

Soul Refiner reveals statistics about pornography and the church

15 Mind-Blowing Statistics About Porn And The Church

Statistics reveal that the increase in the amount and reach of pornography cannot be ignored. But it is not just a problem affecting men. Women, teenagers, and children are also being caught in the web of pornography...

Soul Refiner Reveals Which Accountability Software is Right for You

Which Accountability Software Is Right For Me?

With advances in technology, one can access Pandora’s Box with a mere touch of a screen. For those who are trying to overcome an addiction to porn or for parents trying to safeguard their children...

Soul Refiner shares how Child Sexual Abuse Increases As COVID-19 Continues to Cause Concern

Child Sex Abuse Rises As COVID-19 Continues to Cause Concern

The world around us is in a state of peril, and sadly only continues to decline. COVID-19 swept through our great nation with very little warning. Everyone felt the impact, regardless of age, gender, race, or social status...

Soul Refiner highlight Christians who call for repentance with hopes of revival

Christians Call For Repentance With Hopes Of Revival

2020 was definitely a year for the record books. From COVID-19 to violence and civil unrest, it appears to the natural eye that 2020 was not the year that most had in mind...

Soul Refiner Discusses Why Churches Are Urged To Take Action Over High Porn Use

Churches Urged To Take Action Over High Porn Use In Summer

With porn use reaching its height during Summer months, churches are being called to provide a program to disciple their men on sexual integrity. Research has shown that early Summer brings a peak in porn searches on the internet...

Soul Refiner Talks About College Offering Hard Core Porn As An Elective

College Offers Hard Core Porn As An Elective

Westminster College, a private liberal arts college in Utah, will be offering a two-credited class called "Film 300O: Porn." Westminster's course catalog provides the following description: "Hard core pornography is as American as apple pie and more popular than Sunday night football...."

Soul Refiner shares how to deal with porn in your church

This Is How To Deal With Porn In Your Church (VIDEO)

Paul Leininger is the Executive Director of Operations at Petra Church in New Holland, PA and he also heads up the men’s ministry there. At some point, the leadership at Petra was alerted to the growing problem of pornography in their local community...

Soul Refiner shares how to find your identity in Christ

Who You Say I Am: Finding Your Identity In Christ

If you had an abusive childhood, you can probably still hear your father’s or mother’s words ringing in your mind. “You’re worthless. You’ll never amount to anything. I wish you were never born. You’re nothing but trouble...

Soul Refiner reports on Florida being the first state to require

Florida 1st State To Teach K-12 Child Trafficking Prevention

In a bold move earlier this month, Florida’s State Board of Education voted unanimously to require schools to teach human trafficking prevention in all K-12 schools. Governor Ron DeSantis commented...

Soul Refiner Reveals Forbidden Discussions: What Children Want to Know

Forbidden Discussions: What Children Want To Know

It’s often said that children, especially young children, have no filter. They will quickly open up and talk about things without hesitating about whether it’s appropriate or not...

Soul Refiner Shares Four Songs To Encourage The Betrayed Wife

4 Songs To Encourage The Betrayed Wife

Well, here you are. A place where you never thought you would be. Maybe it was unexpected, or maybe you were suspicious for quite some time. Regardless, you wish that in this moment you could be anywhere else...

Joshua Broome, ex porn star turned pastor speaks with Soul Refiner

From Porn Star To Pastor: How God Rewrote Joshua Broome’s Story

Joshua Broome—a former porn star-turned-pastor, appeared in over 1000 adult films during his X-rated career. His life radically changed after finding Christ. Today, he’s a pastor on a mission to help people get free from pornography and attacks the very industry that ensnared him for years.

Soul Refiner shares how record number of Americans think porn is 'morally acceptable'

Record Number Of Americans Think Porn Is ‘Morally Acceptable’

According to a Gallup survey, 43 percent of Americans consider porn to be “morally acceptable”, a seven percent spike from last year and the highest level since Gallup’s Values and Beliefs survey began in 2011...

Soul Refiner Discusses Helping First Responders Heal From Trauma

Helping First Responders Heal From Trauma

On a daily basis, the bravest of heroes answer the call to serve those in need throughout their communities. These first responders are the first to arrive on the scene of an accident...

Soul Refiner Shares How Porn Fuels Racism

The Shocking Truth Of How Porn Fuels Racism

Cries for racial justice have been echoing throughout the land. Protestors have been taking to the streets, crying out to have their voices heard...

Soul Refiner explains how sexual sin can sear your conscience

How Sexual Sin Sears Your Conscience (VIDEO)

In 2015, Gary Lee Williamson, a former Virginia National Guard colonel, was ordered to serve 10 years in jail on federal child-porn charges. He pleaded guilty to charges of knowingly receiving and distributing child pornography...

Soul Refiner Shares How To Get Over Porn & Find Lasting Freedom

How To Get Over Porn & Find Lasting Freedom

How do you get over porn? If you have struggled with pornography, then you’ve likely already asked yourself that question. You may even understand the mental, emotional and spiritual toll it is taking on your life...

Soul Refiner Shares How Porn Is Poisoning Society

How Toxic Porn Is Poisoning Society

All relationships have their share of ups and downs, but those that are truly toxic can be draining to the soul. By definition, something that is toxic can be described as being poisonous, destructive, unsafe, or deadly...

Soul Refiner Discusses If There A Connection Between Depression & Porn

Is There A Connection Between Depression & Porn

Depression has become a major world-wide mental health issue. Studies have found that the problem is immense, regardless of the degree or classification of depression...

Soul Refiner Reports Kevin Spacey Charged With Sexual Assault: Here’s How it Started

Kevin Spacey Charged With Sexual Assault: Here’s How it Started

Kevin Spacey has starred in over 50 films, but he is making headlines at the moment after being charged with four counts of sexual assault against three men, Britain's Crown Prosecution Service (CPS) said on Thursday...

Soul Refiner Talks About Marriage After Porn Addiction: 5 Tips to Rekindle the Relationship

Marriage Life After Porn Addiction

For the marriage that has been rocked by pornography or infidelity, things may look bleak in the moment. Chances are, you’re not even sure that your relationship will be able to survive. I get it, because I’ve been there...

Soul Refiner reveals how Miami is on high alert for human trafficking

Miami On High Alert For Human Trafficking

Droves of people arrived in South Florida for the F1 Miami Grand Prix. But not all who arrived in Miami were there to watch the big race....

Soul Refiner Talks About Milestones: Remembering How Far You’ve Come

Milestones: Remembering How Far You’ve Come

Milestones have been used for centuries, often used to indicate the progression someone has made. According to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary, a milestone is a significant point in development...

Soul Refiner Shares What You Need To Know About The All New Conquer Series

What You Need To Know About The All New Conquer Series

We’ve completely re-made the Conquer Series. Now featuring 10 videos, the series includes all of the original content, plus several hours of new teaching from Dr. Ted Roberts, new daily tools, real practical strategies and...

Soul Refiner Discusses noah's ark and porn

Focused On Noah’s Ark And Porn

I had spent 8 years traveling the world filming Ark Hunter, a documentary on my search for Noah’s Ark, when I decided to put it on the shelf and shift my attention to porn. Yes, porn. I was at church one Sunday morning when...

Soul Refiner exposes how porn companies target video gamers

Parents Beware: Porn Companies Are Targeting Video Gamers

If you think that pornography’s market is limited to online videos, books, and magazines, you’re wrong. Porn is now making major inroads into two areas that will tighten its grip even more – online gaming and virtual reality...

Soul Refiner Discusses Why Porn Company Is Upset Over NZ Government’s Proposed Porn Bans

Porn Company Upset Over NZ Government’s Proposed Porn Bans

The world’s largest porn provider is strongly opposing moves by the New Zealand Government to protect children from the harmful effects of pornography. With the average age of exposure to pornography being 11...

Soul Refiner shares what the porn industry doesn't want you to find out.

What The Porn Industry Doesn’t Want You To Find Out

With the proliferation of smartphones and iPads, what was once a more isolated problem has exploded into a very common one: 68% of churchgoing men and 30% of women reported viewing porn on a regular basis in a five-year...

Soul Refiner explains how our porn saturated culture is drifting further from God's plan for sex

Our Pornified Culture Is Drifting From God’s Plan For Sex

Our porn saturated society continues to redefine what sex and intimacy look like. The traditional, Biblical values of older generations are being thrown aside as culture embraces sexual freedom and an ‘anything goes’...

Soul Refiner shares about Former President Trump Calling On Americans to End Human Trafficking

Former Pres. Trump Calls On America To End Human Trafficking

In addition to declaring January as National Slavery and Human Trafficking Prevention Month, on January 31, 2020, at the White House Summit on Human Trafficking, former President Donald Trump also signed....

Soul Refiner shares why revival is not possible with the church in its current state

Why Revival May Not Be Possible...

As we see the daily political and social turmoil in our society, Christians are praying for God to send a spiritual revival to stir the church and ignite the fire of repentance throughout the land. But some Christian leaders are wondering if...

Soul Refiner Shares About A Robbery In Broad Daylight

How You Are Being Robbed In Broad Daylight

Under the cover of day, when no one is watching, thieves are found to be the most active. Entire streets seem to be vacated while individuals are at work, school, or running errands. And this becomes a prime target for the thief...

Soul Refiner explains how our choices can genetically impact our generations

Science Confirms Bible On Generational Curses (VIDEO)

New brain research reveals your habits are passed onto your children and grandchildren. Have you ever wondered why some patterns in your family history seem to be recurring in your own life? Strongholds such as...

Soul Refiner explain how sex before marriage changes brain chemistry

Sex Before Marriage Changes Brain Chemistry

In our culture today, we’ve come to believe that sex is love – and good sex is good love. In her new bestseller Love Sense, Dr. Sue Johnson warns...

Soul Refine Discusses Staying Afloat In Your Recovery In The Midst Of A Global Pandemic

Staying Afloat In Your Recovery In The Midst Of A Global Pandemic

Globally, we are in the midst of a pandemic of epic proportions. If you’re like most of us, you have never seen anything like this. Uncertainty lurks within the chaos and every aspect of life is taking a direct hit...

Soul Refiner shares what parents need to know about porn and their kids for the summer

Summertime, Kids & Porn: What Parents Need To Know

School’s out for the summer! If you’re a parent, this means planning trips to the pool, family vacations, play dates with kids’ friends, and juggling an even balance between the demands of your job and family...

Soul Refiner Shares The Impact of Sin On Future Generations

The Impact of Sin On Future Generations

One of the finest forms of deception is found in people who honestly believe that their choices and actions have a minimal impact on those around them. They are too blinded to see the damage that they are doing to themselves...

Soul Refiner Shares These Powerful Weapons Are Helping to Prevent Relapse

These Are Powerful Tools To Prevent Relapse

You’ve decided that the grip that porn has on you has to be broken. You have realized the devastating toll it has taken on you, your family, your friends, your job, and every other area of your life. You have searched out ways to get help...

Soul Refiner reveals how porn and sex trafficking are linked

This Is How Porn And Sex Trafficking Are Linked

To most people, sex trafficking is a problem that exists in distant foreign countries. You may think, “But it certainly isn’t something that would involve me, is it?” If you view pornography, then the answer is “Yes.” The truth is...

Soul Refiner reveals what your brain on porn looks like

This Is What Your Brain On Porn Looks Like

Looking at brain scans, it’s easy to see. The brain of a porn addict looks similar to – and perhaps even worse than – a drug addict’s...

Soul Refiner Shares Parenting Tips To Prepare Your Child For Back to School

Parenting Tips To Prepare Your Child For Back To School

The start of another school year is just right around the corner. The fun and relaxed schedule of the summer will quickly fade as structure and routine settles back into households all around the world. To be honest...

Soul Refiner speaks to the issue of virtual reality porn and the church

Virtual Reality Porn Is The Next Greatest Threat To The Church

A reporter invited to experience virtual reality pornography with a Samsung Gear VR headset chronicled the lifelike details of the sexual encounter. He noted “after trying out VR porn, I don’t think anyone who...

Soul Refiner Reveals Which U.S. State Consumes the Most Porn?

Which U.S. State Consumes The Most Porn?

It may or may not surprise you to find out that the US’s Bible belt states have a higher porn consumption on average. According to two years of Google Trends data examined by Brock University researchers...

Soul Refiner explains why 68% of Christian men views porn on a regular basis

Why 68% Of Christian Men Watch Porn

A new generation of porn addicts is about to flood the Church – are we ready? Are we really supposed to buy into the idea that...

Soul Refiner Shares Why Fall Is The Perfect Time To Help Men Find Freedom From Porn

Why Fall Is The Perfect Time To Help Men Find Freedom From Porn

In a couple of weeks, the brisk morning air will tell us that Autumn is sneaking up on us. Our thoughts will turn to getting ready for a new season. Fall is also a perfect time to start developing a change in the men...

Soul Refiner answers why sexual sin is against your own body

Why Is Sexual Sin Against Your Own Body?

Have you ever wondered why sexual sin is against your own body? 1 Corinthians 6:18 warns of negative physical consequences to sexual sin – a desecration of the Holy Temple, our body...

Soul Refiner shares 4 steps to practicing forgiveness

4 Steps To Practicing Forgiveness

Forgiving doesn’t come easy, especially when you’ve experienced the gut-wrenching pain of betrayal. It’s especially difficult when the offender shows no remorse or willingness to change...

Soul Refiner Reveals 4 Triggers To Be On The Lookout For This Christmas

4 Triggers To Be On The Lookout For This Christmas

Only nine days separate us from Christmas and the celebration of Jesus’s birth. Commercialism is at an all-time high, and the stress level is ever-increasing. Frantic consumers seek the perfect gift...

Soul Refiner shares four ways porn is hurting our children

4 Ways Porn Is Hurting Our Children

The increase of pornography use and addiction among adults is a growing concern around the world. Sadly, it is far worse for today’s children who are growing up in a fully connected world. Porn is devastating an entire generation...

Soul Refiner Shares 5 Pathetic Excuses For Porn Use

5 Pathetic Excuses For Porn Use

Those struggling to break free from porn experience shame and the esteem-crushing impact of their ongoing battle with sexual material. In their porn use they have become experts at secrecy, deception, and lying...

Soul Refiner 5 Steps To START Your Journey To Freedom

5 Steps To START Your Journey To Freedom

While sitting in church on Easter one morning, the pastor was talking about the life, death, and resurrection of Jesus. He was delivering a powerful message, which really challenged myself in mind and spirit. The gift of salvation was freely given...

Soul Refiner discloses 5 Things They Dont Tell You Before You Start Watching Porn

5 Things They Don't Tell You Before You Start Watching Porn

It all seemed so simple the first time you flipped through the pages of a porn magazine or clicked a link on the internet to see a video. You thought, “This can’t be a bad thing. I’ll only be watching porn for a few minutes...”

Soul Refiner outlines 5 ways how porn ruins relationships

5 Ways Porn Ruins Relationships

Porn use is not a harmless activity that only involves the person viewing the material. It impacts the man’s family, social life, employment, relationship with God, and every other aspect of his life...

Soul Refiner 5 Ways Porn Ruins Your Life & Your Relationships

5 Ways Porn Ruins Your Life & Your Relationships

Many people tend to believe that watching porn is harmless entertainment. Often they will cite that it is a personal choice and does not affect anyone else. Sadly, that self-deceiving lie has resulted in many lives...

Soul Refiner Reveals 5 Ways Pornography Will Ruin Your Life

5 Ways Porn Will Ruin Your Life

“All men watch porn.” “It’s normal.” “It’s just something done in private. It doesn’t hurt anyone.” These are some of the lies the enemy would have us believe about pornography; especially the last statement. But the truth is...

Soul Refiner Shares 6 Keys to Leaving a Godly Legacy for Your Kids this Father’s Day

6 Keys To Leaving A Godly Legacy For Your Kids This Father’s Day

Father’s Day is the time to honor the men who gave us life. But if you struggle with porn, perhaps the last thing you want to do is reflect on your early years with your father. The roots of porn bondage can...

Soul Refiner Shares 6 Lies Men, Who Struggle With Porn, Believe

6 Lies Men Believe When They Struggle With Porn

The struggle with pornography is lonely and secretive and a lie. A man usually goes to a secluded or private area where he can be alone with just a phone, computer or magazine. Because of the need to keep...

Soul Refiner shares the list of corporations who contribute to sexual exploitation

Corporations Who Contribute To Sexual Exploitation In 2022

“No corporation should profit from or facilitate sexual exploitation.” This is the firm stand being taken by The National Center on Sexual Exploitation (NCOSE), a leading non-profit organization...

Soul Refiner Shares 5 Reasons Why Porn Use Spikes Every Christmas

Addiction Doesn't Take A Break During Christmas

Christmas offers extra time with family and friends for many. It also provides plenty of free time for negative pursuits, however. It appears addiction doesn't take a break during the holidays. A look at 2016 Google Search Trends shows that porn viewing spiked during the week of Christmas...

Soul Refiner Shares On Addiction: It Doesn’t Have to Be This Way

Addiction: It Doesn’t Have To Be This Way

One of the most heartbreaking things you’ll ever encounter is the person who cannot see their worth beyond their addiction. On a daily basis, people succumb to medicating the pain that they feel in their lives through...

Soul Refiner Challenges If You Are Ready To Do Whatever It Takes To Find Freedom From Porn?

Are You Ready To Do Whatever It Takes To Find Freedom From Porn?

Perhaps your efforts to overcome porn have included showing up to a small group meeting every week. Maybe you even did part of the homework. But you still haven’t surrendered your porn usage fully to God...

Soul Refiner Shares The Best Valentine’s Day Present You Can Give

The Best Valentine’s Day Present You Can Give

More than $19.7 billion will be spent on Valentine’s Day this year. This includes 180 million Valentine’s Day cards and 198 million roses! Valentine’s Day is clearly a major celebration of gifts between loved ones, including spouses...

Soul Refiner shares C.S. Lewis' Take On Porn and Masturbation

C.S. Lewis On Porn And Masturbation

C. S. Lewis (1898-1963) was one of the most famous and prolific Christian writers and scholars in modern history. His popular writings include The Chronicles of Narnia, The Screwtape Letters, Mere Christianity, and...

Soul Refiner Addresses If You Can Really Be 100% Free from Porn

Can You Really Be 100% Free From Porn?

Once admitting to a struggle with porn, the next question is, “How do you find freedom?” Maybe you believe you have already tried everything, yet nothing seems to be working...

Soul Refiner Shares 5 Reasons Why Porn Use Increases During Christmas

5 Reasons Why Porn Use Increases During Christmas

Christmas schedules get very busy this time of the year. However, it also is a time to relax enjoying family and friends. While the slow-down that Christmas brings is welcomed by many, a change in routine can also provide easy access...

Soul Refiner reveals how to defeat porn in your church

How Do I Defeat Porn In My Church?

“Pornography is the greatest cancer in the church today.” – Chuck Swindoll, Insight for Living Ministries Trena Mewborn, Director of Counseling at First Baptist Church on the Mall in Lakeland, Florida, said that...

Soul Refiner shares how drivers distracted by porn cause fatal accidents

Drivers Distracted By Porn Cause Fatal Accidents

“Pornography never hurt anyone.” How many times have you heard that? Try telling that to the parents of an 18-year-old who was killed in a head-on collision last spring...

Soul Refiner Talks About Enlisting Wounded Warriors To Combat Child Porn

Enlisting Wounded Warriors To Combat Child Porn

A silent war is raging all around the world. The intended targets are unsuspecting, vulnerable, and innocent children who will be lured into child pornography. Lurking in the shadows of the internet, one can find these predators...

Soul Refiner Exposes the Porn Industry: It's Not As It Seems

Exposing The Porn Industry: It's Not As It Seems

A common misconception about pornography continues to engulf the lives of many men and women. For many, they see it as harmless. What they often don’t realize is the amount of devastation that pornography brings. It starts with an introduction...

Bringing Intimacy Back To The Bedroom

Bringing Intimacy Back To The Bedroom

Somehow, your wife finds out about your pornography usage. Whether you told her or she discovered it on her own, it is now out in the open, and the effects are about to begin...

Soul Refiner Shares How This Dad Is Preparing His Kids For A Pornified World

How This Dad Is Preparing His Kids For A Pornified World (VIDEO)

When my boys were very young, I knew they would someday face certain temptation regarding pornography. I was determined to head that off. As young as around age 8, I talked to my boys about keeping their eyes pure, and what images to avoid...

Soul Refiner Talks About From Cursed To Blessed: Change Your Family's Legacy

From Cursed To Blessed: Change Your Family's Legacy

“May His favor be upon you, and a thousand generations. Your family and your children, and their children, and their children.” As I sang the lyrics to this beautiful song, I couldn’t maintain my composure...

Soul Refiner Reveals the Importance Of Full Disclosure – How Victory Over Shame Comes Through Honesty

Full Disclosure – How Victory Over Shame Comes Through Honesty

A common thread I find in the men’s recovery groups I’ve joined and led throughout the years is a reluctance to embrace full disclosure. It typically takes one brave soul, who has reached their bottom...

Soul Refiner Discusses Going Beyond Easter: The Sacrifice Of Christ & Freedom From Sexual Sin

Beyond Easter: Christ's Sacrifice & Freedom From Sexual Sin

Hands down, this weekend marks the greatest event that ever happened. Churches will notice an increase in attendance, as many will flock to the pews to pause and remember the brutal death and triumphal resurrection...

Soul Refiner Discusses Guarding Against Temptation in a Sensual World

Guarding Against Temptation In A Sensual World

From nearly the beginning of time, people have struggled with temptation. Usually, the battle begins in the mind. Quickly, it advances to what we’re seeing with our eyes. And the more we gaze upon something...

Soul Refiner Discusses Guarding Yourself While Life is 100% Online

Guarding Yourself While Life is 100% Online

You finally got a handle on your online habits, you even put safeguards in place to help you stay on the straight and narrow. But seemingly overnight, life has drastically changed...

Soul Refiner Shares On Finding Healing Behind Bars: A Letter From An Inmate

Finding Healing Behind Bars: A Letter From An Inmate

Around 12% of prisoners in the US are incarcerated due to sex related crimes, up 2.6% from 2017. Unfortunately, very few inmates have any kind of successful program to help these inmates find freedom. Thankfully, there are people like Dr. Christine Robbins...

Soul Refiner shares how to break free from porn

How Can I Break Free From Porn?

If you are asking the question, “How can I break free from porn?”, then I say to you – Congratulations! The first step in breaking free from a struggle with porn is to recognize you have one. So now that you realize pornography has become...

Soul Refiner Shares How Local Church Helps Women Deal With Porn & Betrayal

This Local Church Is Helping Women Deal With Porn & Betrayal

It’s no secret that today, more than ever, we live in a sex-driven culture. As a result, pornography addiction – even within the Church – is on the rise. And it’s not exclusive to men...

Soul Refiner Reveals How Kids Are Traumatized By Porn

How Kids Are Traumatized By Porn

“I know what I want for Christmas this year,” declared the child. “I want clothes for the people on daddy’s computer who don’t have any.” Some may chuckle, but the reality is that it is no laughing matter...

Soul Refiner share how meditating on God changes your identity

How Meditating On God Changes Your Identity

Most of us can remember at least one time when we were so upset or angry about something and somebody told us, “Take a deep breath and relax for a minute.” That is actually great advice...

Soul Refiner Shares How Past Hurts Fuel Porn Use & Where To Find Hope

How Past Hurts Fuel Porn Use & Where To Find Hope

A pastor once said that only 5% of what a person is dealing with is in relation to the present. When dealing with porn or sexual addiction, this is crucial to understand...

Soul Refiner Shares How Porn Is Affecting Single Men

How Porn Is Affecting Single Men

A man’s pornography addiction has devastating impacts on himself, his wife, and his family. Countless marriages and broken families have been a direct result of men’s porn usage. Unfortunately, porn is equally damaging to a single man...

Soul Refiner Shares How the Loneliness Epidemic is Linked to Pornography

How The Loneliness Epidemic Is Linked To Porn

Over the past several years, there has been a surge in people who experience loneliness. As it continues to grow, another epidemic continues to be on the rise – pornography. Research has shown that loneliness is one of the main factors...

Soul Refiner Shares How These 3 Men Quit Porn

Learn How These 3 Men Quit Porn

Read your bible more. Pray more. Become a better Christian. That’s the three step process that most Churches recommend to a man who’s struggling with porn. Those are good things, but...

Soul Refiner reveals how these men are getting over porn

How These Men Are Getting Over Porn

With the internet, smartphones, Snapchat and Facebook, pornography is more pervasive today than ever before. It is also impacting the church. According to a survey by Pure Desire Ministries, over 68% of church going men...

Soul Refiner shares on how to disciple men into leaders

How To Disciple Men Into Leaders

Most church leaders would agree they face a constant problem of finding men who are willing to get involved. Not just in leadership positions, but in many roles within the church. But the need for strong leaders continues to grow...

Soul Refiner Teaches How to Lead An Effective Conquer Series Group

How To Lead An Effective Conquer Series Group

There is no doubt that our nation is currently faced with many challenging issues. However, we cannot overlook one that continues to have the most dangerous impact, sexual sin...

Soul Refiner Shares How to Love your Wife Better

Here Is How To Love Your Wife Better

Every married man wants to be a good husband. And every single man hopes to be a husband his future wife can be proud of. But men who struggle with pornography frequently feel that the shame...

Soul Refiner Shares 4 Awesome Ideas To Promote Your Conquer Group

4 Awesome Ideas To Promote Your Conquer Group

The Conquer Series is a cinematic series like no other, helping men find freedom from pornography. When men are starting out in leading their Conquer Group, they will often ask...

Soul Refiner reveals how to quit porn

How To Quit Porn: Just Stop It

Several years ago, I was shown the following video at a church camp, which while not directly related to pornography provides some sound advice for quitting just about anything…

Soul Refiner Shares How To Safeguard Your Family Online

How To Safeguard Your Family Online

Recently I have found myself intrigued by the number of teenagers who have their own smartphone. I have noticed that conversations are no longer taking place at the bus stop or around the family dinner table...

Soul Refiner Discusses How Toxic Shame Keeps You Trapped In The Destructive Cycle of Porn

How Toxic Shame Traps You In The Destructive Cycle of Porn

Shame is one of the most powerful bonds that keeps men from breaking free of their porn usage. Shame is not to be confused with guilt – it can be much more destructive to a man’s self-esteem and feeling of self-worth. Guilt says...

Soul Refiner Shares How Wives Are Helping Their Husbands Quit Porn

How Wives Are Helping Their Husbands Quit Porn

Recently I had the opportunity to talk with an individual, who provided me with a lot of insight in regard to the role that a wife can play while dealing with her husband’s pornography addiction. As I reflected on the things...

Soul Refiner Shares How To Love Your Wife Well

Husbands, Here’s How To Love Your Wife Well

If you have tried to give up pornography, you probably know your viewing is damaging your marriage. But while you struggle with porn, you also know that the images you look at can never love you...

Soul Refiner Shares How The On-Demand Era Is Changing Attitudes Towards Sex

How The On-Demand Era Is Changing Attitudes Towards Sex

In an era of fast-food restaurants, microwaves, online shopping, and on-demand movies, we have become accustomed to instantaneous results for all of our desires. Patience is no longer a virtue...

Soul Refiner Talks About Identity Being Attacked: How Satan Authors Lies

Identity Attacked: How Satan Authors Lies

Since the beginning of time, identity has been repetitively attacked. It’s impossible to reach your destiny without being secure in your identity...

Soul Refiner Answers If Restoration Is Possible After Porn Addiction

Is Restoration Possible After Porn Addiction?

It’s not easy to admit that you’ve made a mess of things because of your porn usage. Your wife has given you so many second chances you’ve lost count; knowing that something’s going on...

Soul Refiner Shares A Woman’s Journey Through Love Addiction And Betrayal

A Woman’s Journey Through Love, Addiction, And Betrayal

Busted! I was about five years old when I was caught “playing doctor” with a friend from church. My parents freaked out, contacted the pastor, and we were chastised for our behavior in one grueling session...

Soul Refiner discusses what it means to be a man

A Man’s Purpose – What Does It Mean To Be A Man?

We live in a society of mounting pressure from all sides. Regardless of who you are, every individual is faced with the worldly task of proving yourself through the work you do, the clothes you wear, the income you provide for your family...

Soul Refiner reveals why so many men are single

Why Are So Many Men Single? (VIDEO)

Looking for that perfect mate is a proverbial problem that has paved a way for profitable businesses. From shows like Millionaire Matchmaker to online dating websites like eHarmony, single men...

Soul Refiner Outlines Plan For Marriage Recovery: Husbands Helping Wives Heal From Betrayal

Marriage Recovery: Husbands Helping Wives Heal From Betrayal

Pornography and infidelity can undoubtedly wreck a marriage. When this happens, one person alone cannot do all of the work. It will require both the husband and the wife making a commitment to the healing process...

Soul Refiner Discusses Pornography In Public & Sexual Assault

Pornography In Public & Sexual Assault

Recently news broke of a man on a train in Australia allegedly sexually assaulting a young woman by watching pornography on his smartphone. He approached the woman who was sitting by a window. After hovering over her for a brief time...

Soul Refiner Shares What This Deadly Creature Teaches Us About Porn

What This Deadly Creature Teaches Us About Pornography

Paralysis is a frightening concept; to be alive but unable to speak, unable to move. Growing up in Australia, I remember, as a young boy, being terrified when I first heard what happens to humans when they are bitten by a Blue Ringed Octopus...

Soul Refiner Shares Why The Church’s Typical Response To Porn Isn’t Working

The Church’s Typical Response To Porn Isn’t Working

Research continues to show that pornography usage has erupted into an international blight on modern culture. Both men and women have become trapped in its web. The porn industry constantly tries to create...

Soul Refiner Teaches How To Read The Bible Like A Conqueror

How To Read The Bible Like A Conqueror

The word “conqueror” conjures up an image of a soldier with the resolve of steel, fully armed for battle, with weapon drawn. The Bible calls us to be “more than a conqueror” in Christ. We are to be fierce in our faith...

Soul Refiner Teaches Restoring Intimacy to your Relationship

Restoring Intimacy To Your Relationship

One of the things that hurts my heart the most as a married woman is the number of couples who are struggling in the area of intimacy. Views of healthy sexuality vary greatly amongst people. When a husband and wife’s views do not align it can...

Soul Refiner Discusses How Stress Triggers Sexual Addiction, 5 Steps to Fighting Back

Stress Triggers Sexual Addiction: 5 Steps To Fighting Back

The addiction to pornography has now become an epidemic and recovery can be a long process filled with many setbacks. Men across the globe speak to this reality as they continue to fight for their freedom...

Soul Refiner Shares How To Tell Your Wife That You’re Struggling with Porn

How To Tell Your Wife That You’re Struggling With Porn

By Kevin Noble The Conquer Series recommends that men disclose their struggles with pornography and sexual addiction to their wives when they reach a minimum of six months sobriety. The intent is to avoid a staggered disclosure...

Soul Refiner Testimony: One Man's Desperate Attempt To Find Healing

Testimony: One Man's Desperate Attempt To Find Healing

Our testimony holds great weight and power, especially to someone who is in the valley looking for an ounce of hope to carry them through. In the battle for sexual purity and integrity...

Soul Refiner Talks About Thanksgiving: Gratitude In The Midst Of Chaos

Thanksgiving: Gratitude In The Midst Of Chaos

As Thanksgiving draws near, so does the realization that life is not the same as it has been in years past. Instead of planning for a large family gathering, many are preparing for a more intimate feast...

Soul Refiner Shares The Benefits Of Full Disclosure & How It Can Help Heal Your Marriage

Here's How Full Disclosure Can Help Heal Your Marriage

For the person caught in adultery, one of the most harrowing thoughts is in regards to making a full disclosure to their spouse. Some rush to spill the beans, but still withhold information...

Soul Refiner Speak On The Church & Porn: Why the Conquer Series Isn’t Just for Men Anymore

The Church & Porn: Not Just A Men's Issue Anymore

As issues of sexuality are addressed within the news headlines daily, the church can no longer afford to be silent. Sadly, many are aware of the moral decline among humanity, and they choose to look away...

Soul Refiner Shares How the Church Can Help Hurting Wives

The Fallout Of Porn: How The Church Can Help Hurting Wives

Until recently, sex and pornography addiction have been taboo topics not to be discussed in the church. Meanwhile, the world continues to push its sexual agendas through every outlet possible...

Soul Refiner Reveals The Silent Marriage Killer

The Silent Marriage Killer (VIDEO)

Close your eyes and imagine that you are married, yet alone. Day after day your spouse returns home from work, eats dinner, and loses themselves in countless hours of television...

Soul Refiner Exposes The Truth: What You Need to Know About Social Media

The Truth Exposed: What You Need To Know About Social Media

It’s no secret that social media is a giant that continues to grow. In 2019 alone, there were 3.48 billion social media users. That’s just slightly under 50% of the entire world’s population...

Soul Refiner Shares 3 Reasons Why Churches Remain Silent About Pornography

3 Reasons Why Churches Remain Silent About Porn

Churches all around the world are realizing that their regular attendees have only been half-heartedly experiencing all that Christ has to offer. And why? Though Christ has bridged the gap for us to know God...

Soul Refiner Reveals How Porn Plagues America’s Top 10 Ranking Websites

Porn Plagues America’s Top 10 Ranking Websites

Suppose you were asked to write down your guesses for the Top 10 Most Viewed Websites in the United States. You would probably quickly list Google, Facebook, and YouTube as the first three. You would be correct...

Soul Refiner Talks About Trading Sin For the Unmerited Grace & Forgiveness of Christ

Trading Sin For The Unmerited Grace & Forgiveness Of Christ

“Stone her!” The shouts could be heard throughout the early morning as an angry mob of men were determined to eradicate the discovery of sin in their community. This woman had been caught in the act of adultery...

Soul Refiner discusses how porn is scientifically proven to damage the brain

This Is Why Trying Harder Doesn't Work

I used to think the most profound thing in the world were pulsars, quasars and galaxies. No, the most profound thing in the world is your brain...

Soul Refiner Talks About Understanding Denial & How it Fuels Porn Addiction

Understanding Denial & How It Fuels Porn Addiction

In a culture dominated by the need to control, denial – especially in regards to addiction, is on the rise. Wanting to appear as if we’re in charge, we struggle to admit when something else is controlling us...

Soul Refiner reveals what men really want

Have You Ever Wondered What Do Men Really Want

Our culture is believing lies on top of lies on top of lies! And they all originate from one place—the master deceiver himself, the liar from the beginning, the father of lies according to the Word of God—Satan. He is the master at getting us to...

Soul Refiner Reveals What The Bible Says About Porn

What Does The Bible Say About Porn

Many people think that pornography has only existed for a few hundred years. That belief stems from our understanding, based on the information we have currently available. Cornell Law School defines pornography as...

Soul Refiner Shares That Women Struggle With Porn Too

Did You Know Women Struggle With Porn Too

Sliding further down into her seat, the woman couldn’t believe her ears. She had been at the edge of her chair when the pastor announced that his sermon was going to address porn in the church...

Soul Refiner Shares Three Steps Towards Freedom From Porn's Trap

What Keeps Men Trapped In Porn? 3 Steps Towards Freedom

It starts out so simple for someone who is hooked on pornography. They probably saw an air-brushed photo of a model online or in a magazine when they were children. Over the years they would spend more time looking at porn...

Soul Refiner exposes what the media won't tell you about the sexual revolution

What The Media Won’t Tell You About The Sexual Revolution (VIDEO)

The ‘Sexual Revolution’ is widely viewed as one of our culture’s great achievements. Supporters rejoice in the freedom to do whatever pleases them sexually. They even say science proves it’s a basic part of human nature. But...

Soul Refiner reveals what viewing porn together really does to a relationship

What Viewing Porn Together Did To Our Relationship

Trivia Time! Headlines scream it, television shows promote it, newspaper articles are encouraging it, and some people will highly recommend it. What is it? The answer: Watching porn with your significant other...

Soul Refiner Talks About When Trying Harder Isn’t Enough

When Trying Harder Isn’t Enough

You vowed to yourself that you wouldn’t and promised your wife that it was over. You’ve met with your pastor and confessed. And you even told a few of your closest guy friends...

A Decade Of Regrets: Pain, Porn, And Personal Choices

A Decade Of Regrets: Pain, Porn, And Personal Choices

Where do you see yourself in the next ten years? Before we know it, this year will come to an abrupt end. We’ll not only be given the chance to reflect on the last year, but we can also look over the past ten years as well. All of the things that we’ve spent time putting into motion...

Soul Refiner Shares Why Marriage Won't Fix Your Porn Problem

Why Marriage Won't Fix Your Porn Problem

“I can stop whenever I want to,” “I’m not hurting anyone,” and “It’s just a harmless video” are common defenses. Many single guys believe that marriage...

Soul Refiner Shares Why Your Porn Problem Is Not Your Wife’s Fault

Why Your Porn Problem Is Not Your Wife’s Fault

Whether they can clearly identify it or not, those who struggle with porn often battle deep feelings of rejection, shame, and guilt. They have found some level of solace in viewing pixels on a computer screen...

Soul Refiner Shares How This Woman Is Helping Men Find Freedom From Porn

How This Woman Is Helping Men Find Freedom From Porn

Have you ever found yourself in a room full of people, and as soon as sex addiction is mentioned it’s like the mic drops and the room grows silent? Eyes start to inadvertently dart around the room, and it’s like you can see the thoughts...

Soul Refiner Shares A Message To The Heartbroken Wife…

This Is For The Heartbroken Wife…

You are devastated and feel like your life has been completely shattered before your eyes. You may have recently made this discovery, or it may be something that you have been struggling with for quite some time...

Soul Refiner Reports Pastor’s Wife Shares How Porn Impacts Her Church

Pastor’s Wife Shares How Porn Impacts Her Church

It’s been over 5 years since we initially launched the Conquer Series to help men find freedom. The impact has been HUGE! Created for men, this series has been helping more than one million individuals understand why...

Soul Refiner Asks If The Perfect Storm Is On The Horizon?

Is The Perfect Storm On The Horizon?

Across the Nation at the moment there are people dealing with significant loss and trauma, from tornados in southern states, the wildfires in the North West, major banks shutting down, and the ongoing effects of the COVID-19 outbreak.

Soul Refiner What Parents Need To Know About Christmas Gift Giving

Christmas Gift Giving: What Parents Need To Know

As Christmas quickly approaches, shopping malls and online websites are abuzz with individuals seeking to find the perfect gift. For parents, this means trying to ensure that your toddler or teen receives their most sought after gift...

Soul Refiner Shares How to Prevent Marriage Meltdowns

Preventing Marriage Meltdowns

Did you know in the legal world, January is frequently referred to as "divorce month?" Yikes! Why is that?

Soul Refiner Shares 5 Benefits Of Giving Up Porn

Here Are 5 Benefits To Giving Up Porn

You have been seriously thinking about giving up porn. You’ve likely heard about all the devastating impacts it has on your life. You’re tired of dealing with the shame and guilt. Are you ready to quit porn...

Soul Refiner Shares How Pastor Barely Escapes Death In Underwater Cave (VIDEO)

Pastor Barely Escapes Death In Underwater Cave (VIDEO)

When bad goes to worse Former mega church pastor, Dr. Ted Roberts, founder of Pure Desire Ministries, retells his story [in the video below] on how he escaped a terrifying near-death experience while free-diving in an underwater cave...

Soul Refiner Shares How Adult Websites Capitalize On COVID-19

Adult Websites Capitalize On COVID-19 (VIDEO)

Stress, anxiety, mental health issues, and domestic violence. These are some of the silent side effects to the COVID-19 global pandemic. But the problems don’t stop there...

Soul Refiner founder featured On TRUNEWS Now: The Truth About Porn

On TRUNEWS: The Truth About Porn

Watch Jeremy Wiles, CEO of KingdomWorks Studios and creator of the Conquer Series, and James Craft, restored pastor and founder of The Novus Project, reveal the truth about porn in their interview...

Soul Refiner Encourages To Give Thanks For The Progress You’ve Made

Give Thanks For The Progress You’ve Made

As we approach this Thanksgiving holiday, I’m reminded of a time that God’s people were called to give thanks in the Old Testament. During the Jewish Passover, the Israelites gathered to remember God’s goodness...

Soul Refiner Shares 4 Tips To Help You Avoid Porn This Thanksgiving

4 Tips To Help You Avoid Porn This Thanksgiving

The Thanksgiving holiday typically brings to mind traditional thoughts of spending time with family and friends while enjoying food, football, and fellowship. Warm and fuzzy pictures of loved ones...

Soul Refiner Reveals What Church Leaders Should Learn From The Bill Hybels Scandal

What Church Leaders Should Learn From The Bill Hybels Scandal

Once again, a well-known pastor is making headlines across the country. And, as is too often the case, the story is about sexual misconduct and even sexual abuse. Bill Hybels, the founder of Chicago’s Willow Creek megachurch...

Soul Refiner Shares 5 Reasons You Should Use The Conquer Series This Fall

5 Reasons You Should Use The Conquer Series This Fall

With just a few pages left hanging on the calendar for this year, now is the time to think back to January 1 and all the plans and goals that were set for yourself and the men of your church. There were probably events planned such as men’s breakfasts...

Soul Refiner Reviews The Super Bowl Half-Time Show

Controversial Super Bowl Half-Time Show

Like millions of others across the globe, we gathered with friends and family to watch last Sunday’s Super Bowl. While you may have had no “team” in the game, anyone around the NFL was rooting for Andy Reid...

Soul Refiner Discusses If The Church Is Ready For Revival

Is the Church Ready For Revival

As people being to rapidly turn their hearts back to the Lord, the question remains, "Will the Church be ready?" For many, the Church...

Soul Refiner Reports How These College Aged Guys Show Their Passion For Purity

Watch How These College Aged Guys Show Their Passion For Purity

Eric Hovind from Creation Today is known around the world for his work sharing the truth of God’s word beginning in Genesis. He also shares his story about his struggle with pornography with brute honesty in the Conquer Series...

Soul Refiner Shares Government Declares Porn A Public Health Crisis

Government Declares Porn A Public Health Crisis

Utah, the State with the highest consumption of porn per person, was the first state to pass a resolution declaring pornography as a public health crisis...

Soul Refiner Shares From Victim to Victor: Rediscovering your Identity in Christ

From Victim To Victor: Rediscovering Your Identity In Christ

“I am not good enough.” Sitting across the table from a beloved friend, I could not believe my own ears. This person had everything going for them in life, or so it seemed. Despite all of it...

Is the Church Being Targeted By California And COVID-19?

Is the Church Being Targeted By California And COVID-19?

First, there were reports of Instagram declaring Christian music harmful. Then, California’s governor ordered Christians to quit singing in church. Without much media coverage, the U.S. Navy prohibited sailors...

Soul Refiner Reminds You Not To Miss This Before National Back To Church Sunday

Don’t Miss This Before National Back To Church Sunday

National Back to Church Sunday is quickly approaching, September 18 to be exact. Attendance will be expected to increase drastically, and small groups will begin meeting once again. As the church doors open...

Soul Refiner Discusses Healing Beyond Betrayal: Recovering From My Husbands Porn Addiction

Healing Beyond Betrayal From My Husbands Porn Addiction

By now many of our readers have had the chance to read the latest blog post regarding a husband’s full disclosure. This may leave many questions from the wife’s standpoint such as...

Soul Refiner Talks About The Perfect Mother’s Day Gift

The Perfect Gift For This Mother's Day

In case you’ve had your head buried in the sand and missed the memo, it’s Mother’s Day weekend. A few days ago, we had a discussion in the office about how everyone was going to celebrate Mother’s Day...

Soul Refiner Addresses How Are You Preparing Your Children For Back To School

How Are You Preparing Your Children For Back To School

It’s that time of year again! Back to school time. I recently read that it is estimated that American families will spend $83.6 billion as they gear up to head back to school and college. My initial thought was...

Soul Refiner Reveals What Happens to the Family When a Parent Struggles With Porn

What Happens To The Family When A Parent Struggles With Porn?

In today’s sex-saturated culture, one can easily become entangled in the web of destruction created by the enemy. Whether it’s in a movie or a child’s television show, you’ll likely find content that is sexual...

Soul Refiner Asks If You Have Self-Esteem Or God-Esteem

Do You Have Self-Esteem Or God-Esteem?

A food company couldn’t understand why their instant cake mix wouldn’t sell. They discovered that consumers felt uneasy that the only requirement was simply adding water to the mix...

Soul Refiner Reports Mega Church Pastor Judah Smith Says Masturbation is a Gift

Mega Church Pastor Judah Smith Says Masturbation Is A Gift

For those who don’t know, Judah Smith and his wife Chelsea are lead pastors of Churchome in Kirkland, WA, who regularly see attendance in the tens of thousands on site and hundreds of thousands online. So, it’s easy to see why what they say can garner much attention or controversy,

Soul Refiner Shares On U.S. Navy Banning Attendance At Indoor Church Services

U.S. Navy Bans Attendance At Indoor Church Services

As COVID-19 cases continue to spike, churches are left scrambling with how to plan for services and small groups alike. Push back, especially in regards to meeting in-person, is at an all-time high...

Soul Refiner Talks About China Using Neural Monitoring Devices To Detect Illegal Porn

Chinese Tech Detects Brain Watching Porn

Did you know that porn is illegal in China? That's right, illegal. In their efforts to clamp down on the production, spread and consumption of porn, they're now using neural...

Soul Refiner shares a heart felt letter from a daughter to her porn-watching dad

To My Porn-Watching Dad, From Your Daughter

Dear Dad, I want to let you know first of all that I love you and forgive you for what this has done in my life. I also wanted to let you know exactly what your porn use has done to my life...

Soul Refiner Shares Thoughts On This Father's Day

My Thoughts On This Father's Day

Millions of dads around the world will be celebrated this Father’s Day, including myself. Becoming a dad has truly changed my life, because it wasn’t until I became a father that I began to realize...

Soul Refiner discusses 5 reasons to reject resentment

5 Reasons To Reject Resentment

Like most who've experienced betrayal, just hearing the word "forgiveness" may ignite a feeling of contempt. You have every right to feel what you're feeling. Although, because we have the right to feel that way, doesn't mean we should.

Soul Refiner Shares 4 Tips To Conquer This Christmas

4 Tips To Conquer This Christmas

Christmas is the time for giving. Unfortunately, it is also the time for taking. Studies show that theft and burglary crimes spike during the holidays. Packages left in cars, boxes on doorsteps, and a pile of presents...

Soul Refiner reveals how to quit porn in 2022

This Is How To Quit Porn In 2022

New Year resolutions to stop watching porn don't work. There is no on and off switch to stop watching porn. The brain doesn't work like that. It requires much more than will power. It requires a proven process to build new neural pathways in the brain towards healthy sexuality - the way God designed.

Soul Refiner Outlines The 5 Stages of Porn Addiction

Am I Addicted? The 5 Stages Of Porn Addiction

Pornography usage affects your life in many ways – relationships, your job, your social interactions, and so much more. You’ve begun to wonder if you may be addicted to porn. Addiction is characterized by the repetition of specific behaviors...

Soul Refiner Discusses Not Just Another New Year’s Resolution

Not Just Another New Year’s Resolution

What do you think is the biggest problem among Christian men today? It’s a problem in the Church that everyone knows, but no one dares talk about...

Soul Refiner Encourages You To Fight For Your Freedom

Why It's Imperative To Fight For Your Freedom

In a single calendar year, men, women, and children around the world view enough pornography to fill five centuries of time. Yeah, you read that right; in twelve short months...

Soul Refiner Encourages Let LOVE = ACTION This Valentine’s Day

Let LOVE = ACTION This Valentine’s Day

Holding hands across the table, the newlywed couple was ready to celebrate their first Valentine’s Day in love as husband and wife. Everything was going great until...

Soul Refiner Encourages Give The Gift Of A Heart Renewed This Valentine’s Day

Give The Gift Of A Heart Renewed This Valentine’s Day

It’s time for the annual bombardment of Madison Avenue’s version of what true love looks like. They boldly tell us how we should express our deepest feelings of love and devotion to our wives or girlfriends...

Soul Refiner Talks About Valentine’s Day: The Secret Restoring Christian Marriages

Valentine’s Day: The Secret Restoring Christian Marriages

While Valentine’s Day has long become a commercial holiday about affection, flowers and chocolate, the story of Saint Valentine shows a more authentic love than the Hallmark version we are sold today...

Soul Refiner Shares How To Decrease America's Divorce Rate

How To Decrease America's Divorce Rate

How To Decrease America’s Divorce Rate While demographers argue whether the US divorce rate is rising or falling, one thing is common in most divorce cases. Pornography. Pornography is not something that only affects the person using it...

Soul Refiner No More Secrets. No More Shame: Restoring Intimacy In Your Marriage

No More Secrets Or Shame: Restore Intimacy In Your Marriage

I’m not a counselor, but in my life experience I have heard countless arguments justifying pornography use. Frequently men will push the blame onto their spouse in marriage claiming that they have to look at it and masturbate in secret...

Soul Refiner Introduces You To Paul Cole – “The Leader” (VIDEO)

Paul Cole Founding Pastor Of C3 Church Talks About Porn

Paul Louis Cole is the son of the late Dr. Edwin Cole, who was the father of the Christian Men’s Movement. Paul is the President of the Christian Men’s Network Worldwide...

Soul Refiner Shares How To Prepare Your Kids For A Porn Saturated World

How To Prepare Your Kids For A Porn Saturated World

Brianna and Cole (names have been changed) first became suspicious when their 14-year-old son Charlie was up late at night in a dark bedroom with his iPhone screen, still shining brightly...

Soul Refiner Explains Why There Is No Such Thing As Ethical Porn

Why There Is No Such Thing As Ethical Porn

In recent years, there has been a rise in porn producers claiming they make ‘ethical porn.’ They are trying to overcome the negative press around porn’s link to human trafficking and sexual abuse. Ethical pornography is...

Soul Refiner Shares On Serial Killer Ted Bundy Describes Dangers Of Porn The Night Before His Execution

Serial Killer Ted Bundy Describes Dangers Of Porn

Please understand that this post is not meant to infer that everyone who watches pornography will become a violent criminal. The content may not be suitable for sensitive readers...

Soul Refiner Introduces You To Dr Joe McIlhaney (VIDEO)

Prominent OBGYN Dr Joe McIlhaney Addresses Porn

Dr. Joe McIlhaney is a prominent obstetrician and gynecologist and the Founder/Chairman of the Medical Institute for Sexual Health, a pro-abstinence medical research organization he established in 1992...

Soul Refiner Talks About Leaving A Legacy

Are You Leaving A Godly Legacy?

March 25, 2014 was a big day for me. My first child was born at home at 8:58 pm. I’ve often heard people say how remarkable the event is of childbirth...

Soul Refiner Shares 4 Reasons Why You May Still Struggle With Porn

4 Reasons Why You May Still Struggle With Porn

“It’s like I’m constantly fighting a war within myself. I want to stay away from porn. I tell myself every time that I give in that this is the last time … but it’s never the last time. I can hold out for a little while...

Soul Refiner Clarifies If Porn And Sex Addiction Is Just A Reality Or Just An Excuse

Is Porn And Sex Addiction A Reality Or Just An Excuse?

The debate over whether pornography can become addictive has continued for decades. But in May 2019, the World Health Organization (WHO) created a new diagnosis code for Compulsive Sexual Behavior Disorder (CSBD)...

Soul Refiner Addresses Codependency And 10 Signs You Could Be

Are You Codependent? 10 Signs You Could Be

The majority of individuals who are married to a person struggling with pornography or sexual addiction will admit that they are exhausted. A significant amount of mental energy has been focused on how to help their spouse...

Soul Refiner Reveals Why Marriage Is To Die For & How To Improve Your Sex Life

Why Marriage Is To Die For & How To Improve Your Sex Life

Probably the biggest casualty that results from pornography usage is the damage to the marriage and a couple’s sex life. As a man is caught up in sexual sin, the foundation of the family and society is shaken...

Soul Refiner Gives Insight Into The Fantasy World Of Porn

The Not So Pretty Fantasy World Of Porn

Surveys show that most Americans do not consider the continuing explosion of the amount of pornography to be a problem. They do not see how looking at pictures or movies of sexual activity could be anything more than harmless fun...

Soul Refiner exposes the truth about Hugh Hefner's sordid legacy

Hugh Hefner Sordid Legacy – What You Didn’t Know (VIDEO)

Hugh Hefner has died overnight at the age of 91. Most people know of Hefner as the founder of Playboy magazine and a driving force in legalizing pornography. What they don’t know is that, as a virgin in college...

Soul Refiner Reveals Your Relapse Early Warning Signal

Your Relapse Early Warning Signal

Pornography has wreaked havoc on a generation of people who grew up with the internet and are now coming into their twenties and thirties and relapse is becoming an issue...

Soul Refiner Shares 4 Tips to Reach Your Goals Before Breakfast

4 Tips To Reach Your Goals Before Breakfast

We all have wishes and dreams. About two out of ten of us even call them goals. Problem is, only a very small percentage of people — about 1% — turn their dreams and goals into real-life successes...

Soul Refiner Talks Turkey And Being Grateful & Dealing With Resentment

Thanksgiving: Being Grateful & Dealing With Resentment

Autumn is the season when we especially turn our thoughts to giving thanks. While we should thank God every day for all the blessings He gives us, the Thanksgiving holiday just naturally causes us to reflect on God’s goodness...

Soul Refiner Shares A Letter To My Porn-Watching Husband

A Letter To My Porn-Watching Husband

Dear Husband, I discovered your porn, again. To say my heart is crushed would be an understatement. Instead, I feel like someone pulled my heart out of my chest...

Soul Refiner Discusses Becoming the Dad Your Child Needs by Giving Up Porn

Become The Dad Your Child Needs By Giving Up Porn

The role of a mom and dad has always been vital to the well-being of a child. But that role has taken on a new level of intensity with the proliferation of sexually explicit content...

Soul Refiner Outlines Breaking Free From Porn By Understanding Your Past

Breaking Free From Porn By Understanding Your Past

Have you ever struggled with something, and you just couldn’t manage to get free? It could be something dark, such as pornography, anger, jealousy, food addiction, a gambling problem, or excessive drinking...

Soul Refiner Reveals How Temptation Increases During Extended Times At Home

Temptation Increases During Extended Times At Home

When are men more likely to view porn? Current issue facing our society can be a trap if we do not realize we are in a battle. With more and more people now having to stay at home...

Soul Refiner Discusses Full Disclosure: Why You’re Only As Sick As Your Secret

Full Disclosure: Why You’re Only As Sick As Your Secret

Why Your Full Disclosure Is Non-Negotiable You have finally admitted to yourself that you struggle with pornography. You have even taken the first step towards overcoming porn by joining a small group that is using the Conquer Series...

Soul Refiner Shares Why Porn Viewing Spikes Over Christmas

Porn Viewing Spikes Over Christmas

The latest review of Google Search Trends shows that the week of Christmas brings a spike of porn related search traffic in the US every year...

Soul Refiner Reveals What Makes A Great Leader

3 Traits That Make A Great Leader

What makes someone a great leader? According to a study out of the University of Texas at San Antonio, the most important quality is confidence. What is Confidence? It’s important to note that confidence can sometimes be confused with arrogance...

Soul Refiner Shares How Corn Is Becoming A Serious Problem For Christian Men

Corn Is Becoming A Serious Problem For Christian Men

The United Nations Commission on Addictions has announced that the growth of corn use and addiction cases has reached epidemic levels. Efforts to increase public awareness of this devastating problem are being launched...

Soul Refiner Shares What Proactive Accountability Looks Like

What Does Proactive Accountability Look Like?

Every day, we’re at war with the enemy. He desires to steal, kill, and destroy and is ultimately after our souls. But because it’s not enough for him to win us over...

Soul Refiner 8 Songs For When You’re Feeling Broken

8 Songs For When You’re Feeling Broken

Music plays a profoundly healing and deeply spiritual role in our lives. But why is that? I believe it is because we were created to worship God, in deed and in song. When we sing to God we are...

Soul Refiner Shares Five Reasons To Further Your Conquer Leader Training

5 Reasons To Further Your Conquer Leader Training

I have met some awesome Conquer Leaders as I have traveled around the country. As a practical tool to help men live a life of sexual integrity, many leaders started out thinking that they would show the Conquer Series...

Soul Refiner Reveals Why Man Cannot Quit Porn Alone

Why Man Cannot Quit Porn Alone

Most men like to feel independent. They want to believe that they can handle any situation on their own, from fixing a leaky faucet to solving a complex problem and like their attempt to quit porn...

Soul Refiner Shares A Personal Account Why I Brought The Conquer Series To My Church

Why I Brought The Conquer Series To My Church

We received this powerful testimony from one of our Conquer Series Leader’s who has stepped up to the challenge, taken up his sword and is leading other men to victory in Christ! I had been reading Charisma Magazine online for several years...

Soul Refiner Shares the Biblical Blueprint For Manhood: Being the Spiritual Leader of Your Home

Biblical Blueprint For Manhood: Spiritual Leader Of Your Home

The Bible leaves no uncertainty that a man needs to be the spiritual leader in his home. This is an awesome responsibility and one that creates much anxiety for many men, especially those struggling...

Soul Refiner Shares On How To Create a Masterpiece Out of the Broken Pieces Caused by Betrayal

Creating A Masterpiece Out Of The Broken Pieces

The pain of betrayal is something that is not commonly understood, until you’ve walked the journey. There are so many unanswered questions that swirl through one’s mind when a husband’s infidelity and porn addiction is first discovered...

Soul Refiner Reveals Misconceptions Of Betrayal And How To Begin Healing

Misconceptions Of Betrayal And How To Begin Healing

The pain of betrayal is something that most people do not understand. It’s like a bomb exploded not only in your life, but also in your heart. Everything you have known and trusted has now been exposed...

Soul Refiner Discusses If You Really Have To Tell Your Wife Everything?

Do I Really Have To Tell My Wife Everything?

Simon still struggles with a secret he has kept for over 15 years. One night after an office party, he had sex with a female co-worker. Now he still wonders if he would need to tell his wife about the affair...

Soul Refiner Shares Why Father’s Day Is A Time To Heal

Here’s Why Father’s Day Is A Time To Heal

Dads play such a formative role in our lives – sometimes this can be immensely positive, but for so many, their relationship with their father has become devastatingly destructive. Father’s Day is meant to be a...

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