Do Couples Benefit From Watching Porn Together?

“Come on…everybody does it, it will be fun!”

This is one of the most deceiving and destructive lies that married couples can believe: viewing porn together is not harmless, simple fun. But, contrary to today’s popular belief, it will not enhance your sex life.

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Steal Kill And Destroy

We must always recognize that Satan comes to steal, kill and destroy. His attempts are often so subtle that it’s not until it is too late that we realize we have been duped. For some couples, they view porn together as a result of both parties regularly viewing porn before marriage. Other couples start down this path of destruction as a result of one person’s obsessive interest in porn.

When the wounded spouse reaches out for support, worldly views tend to encourage joining together to view porn. It may go against everything they believe in themselves, but often feel as if it is the only option.

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Sadly, this doesn’t bring about positive change within the relationship. Porn can further crush any ounce of self-esteem that a person has remaining as they realize that they cannot physically measure up to what is on the screen.

From The Beginning

From the beginning, God saw that man and woman should be together, enjoying each other under His covering. His design was for one man and one woman to join together in their giftings and callings to accomplish His purpose through them.

They were to bless and confirm their relationship through the physical and pleasurable act of sex as husband and wife. But this consummation is not limited to merely becoming one in the flesh. Couples are also to unite in soul and spirit.

Porn, of any kind, separates us from God. Whether we choose to believe or not, it cancels out His blessing and brings a curse on this once beautiful bond. Over time, our conscience is seared and we justify this behavior – giving ourselves over to fleshly and selfish pleasure, regardless of the cost.

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The lie for you may have begun through a magazine article or a television show where a well-known individual promoted pornography as a way in which to spice up your sex life. But because of the addictive nature, this has brought great destruction on your marriage and you have found yourselves in the midst of a storm that you weren’t prepared for.

According to Samuel Perry, a sociologist at the University of Oklahoma, and his colleague, Cyrus Schleifer, the long-term effect of watching porn with your spouse can be devastating. They shared,

“We found that married Americans who began watching pornography were roughly twice as likely to be divorced.”

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Real vs Fake

Porn is risqué. It often generates insatiable hunger that is no longer satisfied within the bedroom because you have become void of natural affection in this area of your life.

This can result in pursuing relationships outside of the marriage. For some couples, both participants learn to lean so heavily on pornography for satisfaction that they are no longer interested in physical intimacy with their partner.

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This is detrimental because you’re only pleasing the physical nature of yourself while neglecting God’s design for joining a husband and wife both spiritually and emotionally.

Costly

Like the serpent in the garden, porn promises enticing and luring results. But in the end, it only brings death. You cannot serve two masters because your love for the addiction will steal from the love for your spouse. Instead of pursuing the blessing God has given you in the gift of your spouse, your eyes are glued to the screen to see what will happen next.

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As you engage these images with your eyes, your brain is registering sexual pleasure that focuses on something or someone other than your spouse. Excessive viewing of pornography rewires the brain to seek out unhealthy behavior. As this happens, people are often driven to act out over and over again. Author and psychiatrist Norman Doidge put it this way,

“Porn viewers develop new maps in their brains, based on the photos and videos they see. Because it is a use-it-or-lose-it brain, when we develop a map area, we long to keep it activated.”

It’s Never Too Late

But God in his infinite wisdom and mercy made our brain pliable so that it can be renewed. This does not happen overnight, nor is it something that you can do by willpower alone. In the cinematic study, the Conquer Series, Dr. Ted Roberts shares, “Trying to defeat your addiction on your own is like trying to do brain surgery on yourself!”

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The process of renewing the mind will take 2-5 years. But the ending result is worth the journey it takes to get there.

Pursuing a life free from porn will require you to identify areas of your life that allowed porn to take root for you. This could have occurred as a result of exposure to pornography at a young age, abuse, rejection, or neglect. Thankfully, you don’t have to figure this out on your own.

Fighting Chance

The Conquer Series combines both Science and Scripture to help guide individuals on the process of pursuing a life void of sexual sin. It gives you the tools to fight and explains why trying harder does not work. As you walk through this riveting study, you’ll become educated on how the brain changes through viewing porn.

You’ll also learn the importance of finding your identity in Christ. And finally, you will hear powerful testimonies that will remind you that freedom is possible, regardless of how far into the depths of sin you have traveled.

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To date, millions of men in over 100 countries have started their journey to a life free from porn through the use of the Conquer Series. Many churches around the world now offer a Conquer Group for men. In some locations, the Conquer Series has been used with women and couples as well.

As one woman shared,

“My husband and I have been in the “Addiction World” for 15 years. We have tried nearly EVERYTHING! There is NOTHING like your program. Your program (the Conquer Series) gave me my husband back. Thank you!”

It’s never too late to start fighting for your marriage. Thanks to SoulRefiner.com, you can find courses that will benefit both you and your marriage. Sign up today!