Read your bible more. Pray more. Become a better Christian.
That’s the three step process that most Churches recommend to a man who’s struggling with porn. Those are good things, but contrary to what most of us believe, it keeps the man trapped in bondage because you’re not helping him deal with the core issue – shame. He doesn’t have a porn problem, he has an intimacy disorder.
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These three men took a surprising approach to finding freedom from porn. It’s surprising because it’s not the “try harder” approach most churches advocate. The process of finding freedom they followed is deeply rooted in Biblical teaching and taught in the Conquer Series, a film series that’s been watched by millions of men and in over 100 countries and 50,000+ churches.
Like most boys, Kyle was introduced to porn at around 10 years old. He quickly became addicted. “It ruined my high school life, my college life, and my young adult life,” Kyle explains. God took everything away from Kyle after the collapse of his marriage due to “multiple extra-marital affairs and a hidden second life.” Kyle explains,
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“Immediately, through the teachings in the Conquer Series, I was able to understand my 25+ years of pornography and sexual addiction. I was able to understand what it had done to my brain… I was able to completely break the chains of sexual bondage.”
The great news is God restored Kyle’s relationship with his wife and they’ve given birth to a third child. They both lead a marriage ministry at their church.
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What starts as a moral problem, quickly becomes a brain problem.
At the moment of sexual release, dopamine is released in the brain, along with other neural chemicals that bond the viewer to the images. So the advice to “just stop it” does not work. It takes time to renew the mind, so there is no quick fix. The Conquer Series lays out biblical strategies and provides practical tools that men are using to find freedom.
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“I’m in the military, and have struggled with porn addiction in the past. I bought the Conquer Series to share with other military men, but ended up watching it in the living room with my dad over a 3 week period. My dad and I are both thankful to the Lord and KingdomWorks for producing the Conquer Series.” – Andy (the views presented here are personal and do not necessarily represent the views of DoD or its components.)”
As Christians, we’ve developed notions of God that have crept into our own thinking which are keeping us in bondage. The Conquer Series helps to destroy those strongholds, while providing real solutions to live porn free.
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The Conquer Series isn’t just helping men find freedom from porn, it’s making them ACTIVE members of their church!
According to Ronald,
“Ever since the first time I watched the Conquer Series I have felt a pull to be more involved. The Conquer Series has given me the vehicle to help other men realize their identity. I want to be a recovery coach and guide other fathers in leading their families with eternity in mind.”
Free men, free men. If you want your church to grow, then help men find freedom.
How could your small group or congregation benefit from watching the Conquer Series and understanding God’s design for sexuality? Will you help the men of your church find freedom from pornography?